" I Can't Forgive Him!" How God helped me let go and find peace after my divorce (1283 hits)
"I don’t love you anymore.”
Those were the most painful words I had ever heard. My husband spoke them on a cold, rainy day in February. The day before Valentine’s Day. A day that is forever etched in my mind.
There had been a growing distance between us that I was hoping was just temporary. Two weeks later he moved to another state.
I was stunned. Our children thought we were happy. Everyone else thought we were the perfect family. So did I. I assumed we’d make it through this.
But as all the details became apparent, I felt increasingly hopeless. I spent days crying in bed, pulling the covers over my head so no one would hear. I pleaded with God to turn the situation around, to bring my husband back, to put our family back together. But after several months of mourning, I finally had to embrace my new “normal.”
Resisting Bitterness Every day, I begged God not to let me grow bitter. To help me focus on the lovely. To stop being so self-absorbed.
More than bringing my husband back, I wanted God to use this trial in my life for good. I wanted to be more like Jesus as a result of it, not more resentful and angry. But I knew that I couldn’t do that myself—it had to be the work of the Spirit.
Immediately God revealed that I was not to rehearse the sins committed against me—not to my children, not to my friends, not even to myself. The things that were said and done needed to be put to rest. I didn’t need to dwell on them because that only led to more sin. ...
