Soulful Connections: Don't let these 4 myths about spiritual intimacy keep you and your spouse apart (633 hits)
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Don't let these 4 myths about spiritual intimacy keep you and your spouse apart. Although I'm not keen on stereotypes, I can't help noticing how women and men gravitate toward certain gender outlooks. For instance, consider men's and women's TV watching preferences. While I stubbornly cling to the hope that my wife, Valerie, will eventually be captured by the magic of ESPN (Da Bears!) and give up her pathetic addiction to HGTV ("all for under $500!"), the reality is we continue to be a two television family. We are not the same. I'm guessing that before the ink is dry on the marriage license most couples discover a gender gap or two in their relationship.
But of all the possible gaps between husbands and wives there's no difference more puzzling to me than how women and men approach spirituality. Here's a scenario Valerie and I have experienced a dozen times: We're with a group of married couples when the topic of spirituality comes up. Someone, usually a woman, mentions the importance of spiritual intimacy in a strong marriage. [...]
Myth 1 Spiritual intimacy must be initiated by the husband. Some of the saddest women Valerie and I meet are wives who confide that their husbands aren't the spiritual leaders in their homes. Sometimes they describe husbands who are actually opposed to God. Or they may be living with a man who deliberately avoids spiritual intimacy because she desires it so strongly. These difficult relationships make for extreme frustration and intentional heartbreak. ...
