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 The real confession of a flat chested woman ''Ganelle'' sad but so true ! (1534 hits)
The thing is, I know that my boyfriend really likes big breasts. It's not like he makes a point of telling me, but it's something that has come up in conversation before; and it just makes me feel completely inadequate. Breasts are very much his thing...
It makes me think that I must be a major disappointment compared to his ideals, and although he's comforted me by saying that 'ideals'/fantasy are nothing like a real person, and he likes me how I am - the fact remains that I know he'd prefer me to have bigger breasts.
He post pcs of sexy woman with big brest on the net and I can't do a thing about it. I don't want to get surgery because I feel I should be happy with what I am; but that's more difficult when I feel I'd be more attractive if I wasn't who I am now.

I've had a lot of trouble with body image through my teens, so this is dredging up some bad feelings again and I just feel awful about myself.

Posted By: David Johnson
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:59PM

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You shouldn't feel inadequate. From a guys perspective, big breasts are just a show. They show no nothing about who you are. I rather called a women, " the good looking chick, with the nice smile, etc. " instead of " hey look at that chick with the huge * * * * ." Excuse my language. Your fine for who you are, just because your bf is a moron and wants more flesh. Doesn't mean you should feel inadequate. I honestly prefer the lower half of the body. Waist down, breast size to me doesn't matter.

Tell your boyfriend he should like you for who you are and that neck up is better then neck down. What I mean by that is brains and personality.
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:17PM
David Johnson
feed back from FACEBOOK !

Think about how you saw your ideal guy physically before you met your boyfriend? Does your boyfriend match that? Probably not. You compromise some things because other attributes or great chemistry. I think what are preferences are and what our ideal mate physically is isn't an absolute thing or something that crosses over into reality. If you asked for my ideal women I'd probably say around a hand full or a bit bigger is ideal. The reality is most of the girls I'm attracted to or have been with were flat chested. Not as big a deal as you might think, the overall package is what guys are looking for. Breast size would never be a deal breaker for me, unless they were ridiculously big. I prefer brunettes but most of the girls I've been with or attracted to were blonde. In the case of relationship's I wouldn't have dropped the girl I was with if there was a attractive brunette in the room with my ideal breast size. It doesn't make any sense does it? Attraction is complex and flexible.
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:19PM
David Johnson

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Boobs.... what a double edge sword... lol...

Sure I've got a good C to D cup but as I get older gravity is taking its toll... Its naturally part of the aging process but a B wouldn't have so much to be concerned about there...

Its sort of like your hair - those of us with curly/wavy hair want straight hair so bad and those with straight wish they had curly... lol!

You are most definitely right. You need to love yourself the way you are!!! Accept your breast size. What body feature do you have that you really love? Do you have great calves? Do you have beautfiul sparkly eyes? We all have features we dread about ourselves - mine??? I feel I have big thick thunder thighs... sigh... always had them... envious of people with thin thighs... but you know what? My husband loves my thighs... mostly because he loves me dearly and part of loving me is loving my body parts.

I think when you get to a point where you have more confidence in yourself you won't put too much stock in what you 'think' your bf likes or doesn't like about your body.

HUGS
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:22PM
David Johnson

Originally Posted by CatsMeeoow
Boobs.... what a double edge sword... lol...

Sure I've got a good C to D cup but as I get older gravity is taking its toll... Its naturally part of the aging process but a B wouldn't have so much to be concerned about there...

Its sort of like your hair - those of us with curly/wavy hair want straight hair so bad and those with straight wish they had curly... lol!

You are most definitely right. You need to love yourself the way you are!!! Accept your breast size. What body feature do you have that you really love? Do you have great calves? Do you have beautfiul sparkly eyes? We all have features we dread about ourselves - mine??? I feel I have big thick thunder thighs... sigh... always had them... envious of people with thin thighs... but you know what? My husband loves my thighs... mostly because he loves me dearly and part of loving me is loving my body parts.

I think when you get to a point where you have more confidence in yourself you won't put too much stock in what you 'think' your bf likes or doesn't like about your body.

HUGS
I actually like straight hair. Straight long hair, preferably past the shoulders. :P

As for thighs, a girl needs to have thicker thighs than most girls. I like a somewhat larger type of girl. Larger in build.
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:27PM
David Johnson
''Ganelle' YOUR MAN IS A DOG FOR MAKING YOU FEEL THAT WAY !
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:28PM
David Johnson
LOOKING AT YOUR PIC I WAS WONDERING ARE YOU A WHITE GIRL ! JUST ASKING BECAUSE YOU LOOK FAR FROM BEING BLACK ,,I WAS THINKING HOW WOULD A BLACK WOMAN FEEL AND WHAT WOULD SHE DO BUT YOU CANT ANSWER THAT !
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:33PM
David Johnson
34A: Flat-Chested Girl in a Big-Busted World

By Taylor Trudon
I remember the first time I realized that my breasts were small. I was in middle school and had been at my older cousin’s house where we were swimming in her outdoor pool. As a soon-to-be seventh grader, I was more concerned with my orthodontia status (the next bands on my braces were going to be a hot pink and blue combo) and convincing my mom to let me stay up to watch 7th Heaven on school nights than my boobs.

My cousin, a cool, upcoming high school freshman who had boobs the size of cantaloupes, took notice of my small chest that hot summer day at the pool and informed me that I had “mosquito bites.” What? Where? That’s funny, I don’t see any bites anywhere on my arms—nope, not on my legs either—and nothing is itching me…oh wait, my boobs are the mosquito bites? It had taken me a full two and half minutes, but my cousin, far more knowledgeable than I, had taken it upon herself to clue me in on the lowly status of my breasts. Thank you, Gen.

Fast-forward roughly eight years and several worn out 34-A cup bras later, and well…nothing has really changed. I spent years waiting for the Boob Fairy to cover me with her magic dust at night, hoping that I would miraculously wake up in the morning with an actual reason to wear a bra (or a “boob retainer,” as my little brother says) but she never came. My grandmothers on both sides of my family have DD-sized breasts, so I assumed the good genes were in my favor. I was wrong.
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 4:55PM
David Johnson
ok im going to try to help this lady because its just wrong the way her man does her !!
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 5:59PM
David Johnson
Tell your boyfriend he should like you for who you are and that neck up is better then neck down. What I mean by that is brains and personality.
Thursday, April 12th 2012 at 8:00PM
David Johnson
You are most definitely right. You need to love yourself the way you are!!!
Saturday, April 21st 2012 at 1:59PM
David Johnson
I've had a lot of trouble with body image through my teens, so this is dredging up some bad feelings again and I just feel awful about myself.
Saturday, April 21st 2012 at 1:59PM
David Johnson
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