For the group - Black Women and Extramarital Affairs-I am one of these women (2295 hits)
I am married. We have children, a beautiful home and make good money. Everyone would think that we are so so happy. My husband has not even kissed me in months, maybe years, let alone have s*x. We might have s*x on an average of once every six months, maybe less than that. I have always had a huge s*xual apetite. I was one of those women who is considered good looking, intelligent, straight lace; you know the kind that is prim and proper in public, but a freak behind closed doors. That was me. Well, my husband did not like it. He shut it down. All he could think about was where did I learn that. I was not a young girl when he met me, I had been married before and was certainly in a few relationships in-between. I know what pleases me, and had no problem letting him know. He has turned me off completely. Recently, ran into an old flame. This person has been trying to get with me for over 5 years now. However, this was the first time I had come face to face with him. Immediately, the chemistry returned. Yes, I went all the way. Could not help myself. I thought I had no s*x drive left. I thought I was no longer desirable, I thought I was no longer attractive, nor wanted. My husband really messed me up mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I never ever wanted to have an affair. I was just at my wits end. This person came into my life just when I was about to hit rock bottom. We continue to meet at least once a month. I have begin to workout again, have put more effort in applying my makeup, purchased new perfume and have changed my style in clothing, for the better. I am becoming alive again! I know this is not right, the affair I mean. I needed an outlet. I did not go out looking for this. My husband pushed me into this other man's arms. I will not leave my husband. I truly hope that he will get it together. I want the same passion I have with this other man, with my husband. Why can't my husband be passionate. I am a passionate person. I need to be touched, caressed, rubbed, squeezed, kissed and hugged. I get none of this from my husband.
..."My husband has not even kissed me in months, maybe years, let alone have s*x. We might have s*x on an average of once every six months, maybe less than that..." Guest Visitor thanks for sharing, but perhaps its your husband that has been having an affair which could account for the reason her doens't want to be intimate with you. Just a thought.
Monday, September 8th 2008 at 5:48PM
Jen Fad
