I want to begin this article of with the bible verse 1 Corinthians 7:4 to help lay a foundation.
The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
s*x within marriage is a GIFT from God! The enemy has taken this gift and made it either gross to some and a god to others.
In today’s world, ladies, there are so many things vying for your husbands attention. In no way did God create you to ever have to compete with a woman on a computer screen, the actresses on TV, or models in magazines.
But the reality is that the access to pornographic material and the exposure of women’s bodies today is becoming more and more of a problem than ever before. This is why God said in 1 Corinthians 7:9 that it is much better to marry than to burn with lust.
I know you may get tired of your husband asking for s*x, but PLEASE hear me when I say this…that is a GOOD sign! If you’re husband is asking you for s*x, that means he is running to you to meet his needs rather than something or someone else.
s*x is the greatest opportunity to serve your spouse in a selfless way, and the same for your spouse to do for you. Men and women may see s*x completely differently, but that’s the beauty of how God designed us in order for us to WORK AT becoming one in our mind and bodies.
So here are Four Things Your Husband Really Wants in the Bedroom:
He Wants You to be Open to Trying New Things
I am a firm believer that you should never do anything in the bedroom that one person doesn’t agree with. It doesn’t matter what it is. The marriage bed is a place of unification not pressure to perform. In the same way, it’s often too easy to stay in a box and not try new things in order to spice things up.
One thing my wife and I did that helped us change the norm in our s*x life was to change where in the house we had s*x. Your husband wants you to be open to trying new things or, at least, discuss it.
He Wants You to Let Him Pleasure You
There is nothing better for your husband than knowing you are being pleased by him. This is one of the greatest man moments for your husband, so you not only should let him pleasure you, but also tell him when he is doing a good job. Verbal communication is huge for men so they know how they are doing.
For some women that have come from abusive relationships or a hurtful past, it can be challenging to let yourself be fully loved by your husband. You have to let him in and trust him as your head.
One of the great scriptures that highlights God’s desire for men to enjoy their wife’s body is found in Proverbs 5:18, “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you ALWAYS be captivated by her love.
He Wants You to Desire Him
Men want to be desired just as much as you want to be loved. This is a huge part of having a healthy s*x life before you get to the bedroom. The build up phase to a great time of intimacy is built up by little signs of desire.
Just how you desire the text messages, help around the house, and special date nights alone which all communicate to you that your husband desires you, your husband desires the same. For him, its more communicated through flirting, through physical touch at random moments, putting on that outfit that makes him look twice when you wear it, or just letting him know how much he rocks your world.
He Wants You To Want It Too
Your husband wants you to want to have s*x as well. I know it is much harder for a woman to experience an orgasm than a man, but this is why it requires teamwork.
Communicate to your husband what you like or desire so you can make your times of intimacy just as pleasing for you as it is for him. Your husband wants you to be their desiring the s*x just as much as he does.
God’s word is clear that s*x is the tool that brings two people closer together than any other force on Earth. This is not done without work, investment, time, patience, and a lot of love!
Commit to serving your spouse no matter what. When you both embrace this mindset, I guarantee those intimate moments will be the most desired times of your day.
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About the author
Jamal Miller wrote 49 articles on this blog.
Jamal Miller is the Co-Founder of Married and Young.com, a community committed to doing relationships God’s way, alongside his wife Natasha Miller. He has been involved in Pastoral Ministry for over 8 years, graduating from Christ for the Nations Institute with his Practical Theology Degree and Ecclesia College with his Bachelors in Christian Leadership. His passion for marriage and healthy relationships has influenced thousands to do it God’s way! He is the author of "25 Ways to Prepare for Marriage Other than Dating". Jamal and Natasha reside in Chicago, IL.
