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The Top 3 Ways to Get High Quality Men to Approach You (Advice from a Matchmaker) (660 hits)


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f he were interested in you, he’d approach you, right?

Wrong! Men don’t always think like that, sisters! 

If you’ve been confused or frustrated by the fact that high-quality men don’t initiate conversations with you, let me help a sister out and share 3 tantalizing tips that will turn you into a man magnet and have men approaching you everywhere you go.

1. Your body language must show that you are available.

I’ve heard from many men that they are intimidated in the presence of a beautiful woman. You’d never think that these attractive, successful men are afraid to walk up to you and say hello just by looking at them, but they are. Why? Because they’ve been shut down by so many sisters in the past. They don’t like rejection and will avoid it like the plague!

According to the science of attraction, men (and women) find people with available body language–smiling, uncrossed arms and legs, and looking up–the most attractive.

For example, put away your smartphone when you’re in line at the grocery store and stop using your Michael Kors bag as a body shield. These props can make a man think you’re too busy or just not interested.

2. Make the first move

You don’t have to chase a man, sisters, but you do have to make the first move.

One way you can make the first move is to lean in and give LOTS of eye contact. Don’t forget to smile too! Mean mugging isn’t attractive.

If the thought of smiling and saying hello to a good looking man makes you want to run away and hide, you have some limiting beliefs about men, yourself, and dating that are getting in your way. For example, some of the women I work with think that flirting is “too aggressive.” They’ve been taught to never pursue a man but as a result of these thoughts, they end up running the opposite direction when a man seems interested in them.

3. Take advantage of the moment

You have to attract a man’s attention to you while you can. Dr. Helen Fisher, an expert in the science of love, says we people can tell in one second–ONE SECOND–whether or not someone is attractive!

You can’t put all the responsibility on God, fate, or “if it’s meant to be” types of thoughts. You also can’t make the excuse that if he’s interested he’ll overlook all of your “don’t come over here, what are you looking at, I hope you don’t really notice me” signals and talk to you anyway.

If you’re in the presence of an attractive, single man you have to flirt to let him know you’re interested while he’s still there.

You’ll have more good men approaching you if you’ll change your body language, be willing to initiate and seize the moment!

BMWK, do you think women should make the first move? 

 

About the author

Aesha Adams Roberts wrote 37 articles on this blog.

Dr. Aesha is a matchmaker, dating coach, speaker and author of the book, Can I Help A Sister Out: How To Meet & Marry The Man of Your Dreams. After years of making painful dating mistakes, she met & married her husband in 11 short months and has made it her mission to help women and men find and keep the love of their lives.

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